Me in this month’s 3008docklands Magazine. Be sure to have a read of the other fabulous articles.
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We all know someone who does too much. Maybe we all do a little too much. Saying ‘No’ is not always the easiest. In fact, it is often one of the hardest things to say. I for one get joy and exhilaration from helping others, challenging myself and taking on new responsibilities and roles. Saying No sometimes feels like I am letting someone else down, maybe even myself. Is this just me? So when was the last time you said “no” to someone and turned an opportunity down?
Taking on the world, extra work projects or extra volunteer roles may seem like the very best thing. But here is the thing, we all have a burn out button eventually. Taking on too much may in fact not be the best thing. It becomes time away from family, partner, children, friends, and what about yourself? Your “me time”?
Without sounding totally insensitive and under valuing the importance of helping and being there for others, being a little selfish sometimes is giving yourself permission to focus on you and the other important things in your life. Ask yourself, what am I really doing this for? Is it worth sacrificing my other roles and commitments and joys and passions?
We can’t always please others. We need to sometimes please ourselves.
So the next time someone asks something extra of you and you already feel like your candle is burning thin and dry, a simple “no, I’m sorry, but I can’t” may go a long way.
Have you said No lately?
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