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the big move to a ‘big girl’ bed


I can’t believe the time has come where we are thinking, planning and organising the transfer to a ‘big girl’ bed. It wakes you up a little. The ‘big girl’ / ‘big boy’ wasn’t thought of for any old reason I am sure.

It’s a reminder how fast the little munchkin is growing up. How soon one millstone becomes ancient history and a new milestone awaits.

This past weekend I was running around buying sheets, protectors, and a doona. Going a little crazy where I am in Target, price checking, then up to Adairs for Kids and price checking there… and then wondering… is this soft enough? Maybe I should look more? What blend of fabric should I be getting?

I admire those people who just can go into one store, see, buy and have no second thought. For some reason I feel I have over analyse it probably just a little too much.

But thankfully I only went to 3 stores… yep, 3… and the third was in a whole other shopping centre. Call me crazy if you want! I think I am a little!

So it is now all bought, still in the packets mind you, and I am now awaiting the bed. Fortunately I have time to over analyse the whole transfer a little too.

But it got me thinking, what is the best way to transfer? Cold turkey? Leave the cot still in the room? Sit and wait with them to help them understand bed is no longer a jumping castle and rather a place to sleep?

I have heard some wonderful stories where children ease into the bed with no hassle and no problem. They soak up the attention of the ‘big bed’ and relish in the joy that they are no longer babies.

Others I hear take some time. A little going backward and forth between bed and cot. A few screams, and night wakings and constant going in to put them back into bed… the ‘big bed’ that is.

All I know is that as parents we need to listen to our children and listen to the cues they give us.  It should be a positive experience and not a negative one. As parents, we can’t push them. Changes in their lives can sometimes be challenging, but it is one of the many changes they will experience in their lives.

I could throw a ‘big bed’ party and invite all her “friends”…. too which I mean ‘puppy’, ‘dolly’, teddy1′, teddy2′ and just a few others.

As much as I can plan and plan, it really will also depend on what happens the first night, and the next few after that.

My tip, 1 step at a time. Be patient. Don’t push. And make the experience as positive as possible.

Have you done the big transfer lately? What worked and what didn’t work for you? 

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  • Mrs Savage

    We did the big move last year before number two arrived, I think it helped that our son was infatuated with his older cousin who was in a “big bed”.

    • Tahlia

      Exactly why we are doing it now as Little one is due beginning of May. I am hoping it will be a smooth transition.

      Alex – I have heard of leaving the bed in the room till they show interest. I don’t think I have that luxury of waiting though x

  • Alex aka Whoa Mumma

    Our little girls shared a room for a long time with the little one in a cot and the older one in a toddler bed. I’d bought a second toddler bed because they were on a sale and set it up even though she wasn’t sleeping in it.

    When she showed interest in sleeping in it, we let her do it. I think she was about 18 months at the time.

  • Sonia Life Love Hiccups

    I agree Tahlia, let them do it in their own time and follow their lead. Our older 2 went into the big bed overnight with no problems, whilst our youngest needed a bit of time and switched backwards and forwards between his cot and bed for a couple of weeks before he finally was ready to say bye to his cot.
    Thanks for linking up. Xx

  • Anna @ green tea & toast

    Oh yes – I can relate! We’ve just been through the big boy bed phase, which took a little time. Finally sorted now, but not without a healthy dose of bribery charts and the like! Good luck. x

    • Tahlia

      thanks for the tips Anna… I can see how I may need to do this as well :) x

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