I saw a girlfriend yesterday who just had her third child. A little precious girl. As we sat drinking our soy latte’s, feeding babies (well I was anyway), burping and cuddling, we got to talking about motherhood, life, babies and everything else in between.
The days that take your breath away. Blow you away and give you that amazing fuzzy feeling inside. And the challenges. The heartaches. The down days. The real shit days. The days you just want to throw the towel in.
Week three, week four, week six, week twelve… everyone has their own individual idea of when “the light” finally shines a little more. She is only in week three. She is finding it hard. Very hard. Very Very hard.
Bust so often I hear of the challenge and shame to talk about this challenge. As if it is believed people will judge or think you as someone who is weak. As if other mothers and friends will think of you differently. And I can not help but wonder what it would mean to everyone, to every new mother, second time, third-time mother if we were all just a little bit more honest in how we feel. Maybe some of that loneliness will disappear.
Felt able, open, and safe to say that “it is hard”; “i am finding this hard”, “it is the hardest thing ever”.
So this week I am grateful that I was able to offer support to my dear girlfriend. Be an ear and face to talk to and share our mothering experience. And allow her the space and time to feel safe.
Sometimes we just all need a little support.
what are you grateful for today?
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