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what I know about sadness

crying is okay here

Sadness is real. Crying is normal

I know that there have been times when I have felt alone and isolated.

I know there have been times I have wanted to cry but felt to embarrassed or ashamed to do so.

I know that some of us cry watching the Huggies ad.

I know that I was ready to cry today when I had to clean up dropped and smashed food on the kitchen floor after Little E made a mess.


Crying is real. Sadness is normal


I know being a mum is one of the toughest challenges yet.

I know that there have been days when I want to “throw in the towel” and run a mile.

I know that crying about it does not even begin to scratch the surface.

But I know if I don’t cry, then I am not being real and not being true to myself.


I know when I need to cry


I know that some mums feel guilty for crying in front of their children.

I know that some mums feel stuck in how to explain their tears to their children

And I know that children sometimes feel sad and confused because their mummy is sad and confused


I know that children need to see your tears, sadness and will pick up on your emotions just through your behaviours and voice.

I know that teaching children about emotions and feelings is essential.

I know that a good cry is very cleansing

I know that crying is not a sign of weakness.


Sadness is not a sign of weakness


I know that children need to learn and see some of the darker emotions.

I know that we need to teach our children that it is okay to be sad and it is okay to cry.


What have you cried about lately?


Thanks to Shae from Yay From Home for linking this up with Things I Know and Glowless


Tahlia xx

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  • katesaysstuff

    I’ve cried more times than I can count this week.

    When I read the small boy’s formal diagnosis.
    When I thought about how or future is going to differ from what I had envisioned.
    When I worried about how the world will treat my beautiful boy.

    And it was a relief to let the feelings flow, and be able to let go and move on.

    I know I will cry again, probably very soon. But I also know that it is healthy :)

  • Nee Say

    There is no point pretending things are rosy when they are not. Our kids deserve honesty about this stuff. Great post x

    • Tahlia

      so true. Our kids definitely need to see the honesty and reality.

      Kate, I hope your weekend will be a good one and I am sorry to hear you had a tough week. But glad to hear that you have had a cry and feel a little relieved by doing so.

      I think uncertainty is something we all have a little sadness over… i know I do

      thanks for sharing


  • Chloe

    I had a massive cry yesterday…. stress levels just got to breaking point. But you know what? It was SO cathartic, and I felt a lot better afterwards. At this point I’m sticking to my mantra: ‘this too shall pass’


  • Rhianna

    I started to cry on Monday when I was telling someone about the deletion of something I had written. I also felt my eyes well up yesterday afternoon as I was telling DD1’s teacher that my father passed away nearly 2 years ago and my eyes are again getting a bit wet as I type this now. Thank you for the beautiful post. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses to you xx

  • Kellie @ Three Li’l Princesses

    To be honest, I don’t think I’ve cried enough this past month. I had a bit of a tear-up at Packed To The Rafters the other night (I know, I know, very daggy of me!), but gee it felt good. I need a good, long soppy girly movie to get it all out though, I think!
    Take care of yourself. xx

    • Tahlia

      nothing like a good soppy girly movie…. I can recommend The Notebook for a good cry!


  • Sif

    I know I agree with everything you’ve said about crying! I cried last night out of fear that I’m a jopeless mother who can’t i press on her cgildren how i portant it is to be generous with one another. Crying helps though – it is cleansing!

  • Amy @ MahliMoo

    I agree with everything you have written Tahlia.

    I cry easily. The kids have seen me cry more times than I can count.

    Awesome post!

  • Tina ~ Tina Gray {dot} Me

    Thanks for linking me :) I agree with everything you said. And you already know that I cry about everything. *sob*

  • Kellie – Good, Bad & Unnecessary

    I mentioned on Tina’s blog this morning that I had a little tear up at daycare drop off on Tuesday, but I could do with a big one.
    Cleanse the soul :)

    Look after yourself xx

    • Tahlia

      I can just see me having the tear up when Little E’s first day into creche will come….


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  • Deb Wild Hope

    I think it’s so important to cry infront of our children. To be ‘real’ to them. Being real to them makes you respectable to them – they can sense your authenticity.

    Loved the quotes. Loved this post. Love your honesty.

    • Tahlia

      Thanks Deb. You are so right… children can very much sense your authenticity! There pick up everything


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  • Mandy

    I totally agree with that. I remember my mum crying when she found out my grandpa had cancer and we freaked out because we’d never seen her cry. I want to show my children more emotions than that and hopefully they’ll continue to show many many emotions as they grow too.

  • Teachermum

    Great post. I am your newest follower and look forward to connecting with you.
    You might be interested in reading the post I wrote about sadness a few months ago. You can find it over here:

    • tahlia

      Hi, thanks for following. I will for sure go and check out your post.

      Mandy, it is so important for children to see your emotions. For them to know that crying is normal and ok. As they see emotion more and more the shock factor would not be as strong for what it was for you

      Thanks for stopping by x

  • Laney @ Crash Test Mummy

    Visiting from DP Blog Carnival . . .

    Today I am crying about my botched haircut which I now have to go back and get fixed. Silly really, it’s just hair, it will grow back. Still, boo hoo!

    • tahlia

      Nothing worse. I feel your pain!

  • Naomi Ellis

    seriously, do not get me started on crying! I cry all the time, helps me feel better and I love to release my emotions that way. It is a gift to me as a woman and a mother and I take advantage of it all the time. N x

    • tahlia

      haha :) Yes Naomi, I love your post on your crying in the laundry. Nothing better then that feeling after you have had a good cry!

  • kirri

    Crying is healing….and yes, I cry at Huggies ads and pretty much any slightly sentimental commercial. I come from a family of cry-babies so I have learnt to embrace my sensitivity, even when its a little embarrassing!

    • tahlia

      I am glad to hear you have embraced it Kirri :)

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